Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up And Leave Insecurity Behind

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The relentless pursuit of high self-esteem has become a virtual religion ??? and a tyrannical one at that. Our ultracompetitive culture tells us we need to be constantly above average to feel about ourselves, but there is always someone more attractive, successful, or intelligent than we are. And even when we do manage to grab hold of high self-esteem for a brief moment, we can't seem to keep it. Our sense of self-worth goes up and down like a Ping-Pong ball, rising and falling in lockstep with our latest success or failure. Fortunately, there is an alternative to self-esteem that many experts believe is a better and more effectivepath to happiness: self-compassion. The research of Dr. Kristin Neff and other leading psychologists indicate that people who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being than those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feeling of security and self-worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down. This book powerful demonstrates why it's so important to be self-compassionate and give yourself the same caring support you'd give to a good friend. This groundbreaking work will show you how to let go of debilitating self-criticism and finally learn to be kind to yourself. Using solid empirical research, personal stories, practical exercises, and humor, Dr. Neff ??? the world's foremost expert on self-compassion ??? explain how to heal destructive emotional patterns so that can be healthier, happier, and more effective. Engaging, highly readable, and eminently accessible, this book has the power to change your life. About The Author Kristin Neff, Ph. D., is an associate professor in human development at the University of Texas at Austin. A pioneer who first established self-compassion as a field of study almost a decade ago, Dr. Neff gives lectures on self-compassion internationally and conducts workshops for those who to learn more about developing self-compassion. Table Of Contents Acknowledgments Part One: Why Self-Compassion? Discovering Self-Compassion Ending the Madness Part Two: The Core Components of Self-Compassion Being Kind to Ourselves We're All in This Together Being Mindful of What Is Part Three: The Benefits of Self-Compassion Emotional Resilience Opting Out of the Self-Esteem Game Motivation and Personal Growth Part Four: Self-Compassion in Relation to Others Compassion for Others Self-Compassionate Parenting Love and Sex Part Five: The Joy of Self-Compassion The Butterfly Emerges Self-Appreciation Notes Index